tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9195795672775264803.post3682207585772336783..comments2023-06-21T02:18:58.281-07:00Comments on Repeating History: leaving a legacyM. M. Justushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10695486138971352978noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9195795672775264803.post-50897082468437307482010-03-06T21:44:55.925-08:002010-03-06T21:44:55.925-08:00"I can acquire *stuff*--none better--but then..."I can acquire *stuff*--none better--but then what?" You sound like Miles and his "playing wall" metaphor, which is another one I've run up against in this context. Running up against brick walls has never been my favorite occupation, even when it crumbles before me.<br /><br />And "Who would have the circle for me?" Who would burn Kly's death offering? That's another one, although I've run up against it more in the context of having my medical wishes carried out in the event that I am not able to direct them myself. That one frightens me. <br /><br />You do touch a lot of people, me included. I suspect that you touch more people more profoundly than you think you do. <br /><br />Not so sure about that living in the moment thing, though, and not just because I'm not a Liaden fan [g]. Anticipation has always been more than half the fun for me.M. M. Justushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10695486138971352978noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9195795672775264803.post-28819279950370434792010-03-06T19:13:29.909-08:002010-03-06T19:13:29.909-08:00I've been having thoughts along these lines la...I've been having thoughts along these lines lately, as well; perhaps it's our stage in life. [And maybe not just us: look at Lois wondering what Ista's next stage was going to be, & she's a bit older than we are.] We don't have any kids either. I can acquire *stuff*--none better--but then what? I was a lit. major for too many decades to get out of the habit of looking for the meaning behind the event.<br /><br />Filkers have died the last few years, & I've watched the effect on the community. It's a common custom to have a memorial circle for the person at the next iteration of a con they were associated with or other big con. For example, at the L.A. WorldCon, Marion Zimmer Bradley's daughter, an accomplished harpist & singer, led the memorial circle for Cynthia McQuillin, who had been a musical mentor for her. When Dave Alway died just after GaFilk, there was a memorial poetry circle at Confluence the following June.<br /><br />Who would have the circle for me? I'm none of the Ps: neither player, nor parent, nor pagan, nor poly, which are most of the main cliques. At cons, I kind of butterfly around, skimming from one fun thing to another. I touch lots of people, but in peripheral ways, a bad pun here, a good book rec. there.<br /><br />I know you didn't get into the Liaden series so much, but maybe we should learn to be like the Clutch Turtles, Artists of the Ephemeral, learning to live in the moment & let that be its own meaning.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9195795672775264803.post-52362336867992719612010-03-02T17:07:23.361-08:002010-03-02T17:07:23.361-08:00That's what I'm trying to aim for, too. I...That's what I'm trying to aim for, too. I need that something to be something I can point at and say, "I did that," too, though. There's no reason I can't do that, too.M. M. Justushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10695486138971352978noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9195795672775264803.post-43578378266480035602010-03-02T10:07:50.663-08:002010-03-02T10:07:50.663-08:00Well, I alternate between thinking "I'm h...Well, I alternate between thinking "I'm helping people every day and once a week I help kitties, too!" and despair that I have no one to leave behind or to leave my Stuff (including many family antiques) to.<br /><br />It's definitely bothersome, though I certainly don't regret not having chillun of my own. (Neither of my sisters does, either.)<br /><br />Mainly, I feel that if I've done something to make the world a better place, that's a fine thing. Even if it's just a little thing.Amy Sikeshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14941597994920102387noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9195795672775264803.post-27459738886630196362010-03-01T20:30:35.693-08:002010-03-01T20:30:35.693-08:00I'm sure it helps that you're a lot closer...I'm sure it helps that you're a lot closer (physically and otherwise) to your niblings than I am. <br /><br />And publication, yes. Haven't gotten there myself. Not yet. But I am finding some small things that I hope will outlive me. And am on the search for more.M. M. Justushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10695486138971352978noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9195795672775264803.post-30278090628812212932010-03-01T19:03:32.339-08:002010-03-01T19:03:32.339-08:00I don't think I'm worrying about a persona...I don't think I'm worrying about a personal legacy, for now at least. It may hit later in life especially as I'm childless--but then, there are the niblings, especially those who live next door. I think I'm planting some permanent memories there. Beyond that, there are a few publications for work that will carry my name forward for a while in my little area of expertise.<br /><br />I do try to keep myself happy, and to help others be happy when I can. I hadn't regarded this as a Life Goal, though. I will think on it.NancyBhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02932498557111486912noreply@blogger.com